5 ways you can regain PRESENCE…

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This month we have been talking about Gratitude – we have been encouraging you all to think about things in your life that you are grateful for and to focus on what you HAVE rather than what you lack or perceive you lack… One of the BEST ways to really see and feel gratitude is to be FULLY present…

What do I mean by be present…? Being present is only allowing yourself to feel feelings and to think thoughts that apply to your situation RIGHT NOW… It is only when we wander back into our past or look to far forward into the future that we feel fear and anxiety. Yes of course there are variations to the rule – there always is – but this is generally speaking and generally speaking – if you choose to stay present – you will find a space that is fuelled by calm and collected thoughts…. A much nice place than somewhere fuelled by ‘what if’s’ and past resentments and regrets…

Being present takes practice. Everything worth doing in life takes a wee bit of time and will require a few adjustments to your current routine to make room for these changes… We tend to resist change for a myriad of reasons – more on that later but for now here are my top 5 ways that I regain presence when I slip out of it for whatever reason…

My Christmas card from my crazy BF...  Love the way he thinks even if it means a raised eyebrow or two... x

My Christmas card from my crazy BF… Love the way he thinks even if it means a raised eyebrow or two… x

1. First and foremost – breathing and my rate of breath.
If you slow you rate of breath right down so that you are breathing in for at least 5 seconds and breathing out for the same – the world will slow down with you. That crazy thought or memory that was preoccupying you will fade away and you will gain some more grounded clarity…

2. PLAY… Take yourself out of the situation completely and do something fun! If you have kids this is the perfect time to embrace your inner child and do something crazy with them like climb a tree till you pop out the top or something my kids and I have taken to lately is board games…

3. Bookmark your favourite blogs or TED talks or even motivational video’s that you know encourage you to come back to NOW… These can be related directly to being present or simply reassure you that everything is happening exactly the way it is meant too. Two of my absolute favourites are;

http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability?language=en
http://www.ted.com/talks/steve_jobs_how_to_live_before_you_die

4. COOK something new! This is a fantastic way to reclaim presence because unless you’re Pete Evans you have to stay focused on what you are doing for the dish to work. Choose something delicious so you can enJOY your practicing even more once its done.

5. Gratitude lists… When you sit and write down the things you’re truly grateful for RIGHT NOW it not only attracts more of these amazing things into your life but grounds you back into the present too – win win!

So WHY have I chosen to chat about being present for my final blog of the year…? I have just been given a lesson in presence by my daughter who has been unwell with a wicked chest cough since before Christmas and because of that all of my plans changed and instead of listening to Salt and Pepa at Falls Festival tonight in Byron – I sat with her on the couch and watched her favourite movie… How does this relate to being present??

The metaphysical reason for someone having a cough is that they feel ‘unheard’ or they are ‘screaming for attention’ so as I sit down tonight to read over and set my intentions for 2015 the VERY first thing will be to BE more present when I am with my kids – its too easy to get caught up in the word busy and ‘not right now’ and I am making the conscious choice to change that – I am grateful for her teaching me to realise that this was the VERY best way to spend my New Years Eve and feel even more blessed than ever that she chose me as her mumma…

Being FULLY present with our loved ones is our greatest gift to them x

Being FULLY present with our loved ones is our greatest gift to them x

PS – so you know there were some VERY trying times over the past couple of weeks… as we worked out which homeopathy remedy we needed to use – lots of two steps forward and one step back… Many sleepless nights that had me remembering back to having a newborn baby and that sand in my eyes on waking feeling, a few tears and tantrums (from both of us), manners going out the window (her not me!) and me wondering if I was a actually doing the right thing so many times I lost count… Unconditional love is an amazing thing…

SO January is the month of CREATE! Get ready for some incredible tips on how to change your mindset and create ALL the things you really want from life.. Happiness really is the first step so lets start there!

I have a really good feeling about 2015… There is an energy shift coming and change is in the air…. An era of holism is upon us…. Woot Woot – bring it on!

HAPPY NEW YEAR xxx

Until next time…

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